Girl, Stop Texting Him—For Real This Time (A Breakup Coach is About to Call You Out)
Okay, OK, so you have found yourself staying in touch with him, despite declaring to your best friends that you were done with him.
Trust me, I know exactly how that goes.
You feel super empowered when you’re talking to your friends and you’re listing off all the reasons why he’s not good for you and that you just wanna focus on yourself.
But then when you’re alone, and you’re chewing on your own thoughts or maybe you’re spiraling and crashing out, that’s when the urge to text him hits.
You wanna tell him all the reasons why he did you wrong and the ways that he doesn’t appreciate you—and you’re really in your element when you’re doing this. Full girl-boss vibes.
When he doesn’t respond, or he responds in a very confusing manner that only sends you deeper into your anger… you realize that maybe you wasted a lot of time on him or should have seen the red flags sooner. Then you start fantasizing about how bad of a partner he’ll be to his next girlfriend.
But then you stop talking for a few days. And then he texts you and asks how you’re doing. So you agree to an innocent drink, or walk, or phone call…
And then you end up… trying to make it work again.
You low-key keep talking, and your friends of course don’t know you’re doing this (because they’re already annoyed you didn’t close that relationship fully and slam the door).
But one thing leads to another and suddenly you’re in this really weird in-between stage where you’re not together, but you’re kind of-sorta working on things, but you don’t really know where you’re going.
You’re literally in the definition of living in the present moment.
But once you see that he’s not really making any big effort—despite how different it felt when you were sitting together or in bed together (no judgment)—you start to get angry again. How are things not different this time? Why did he say those things when he obviously didn’t mean it?
Cue the vicious cycle of staying in touch with your ex with little to no reward.
You’re probably wondering how I’m able to paint such a vivid, clear play-by-play of your situation—and the answer is simple: I’ve lived it. On multiple accounts.
Before I was married and a mom, I was the walking definition of a woman who said one thing and did another. My friends couldn’t keep up with my breakup stories… much like yours probably can’t keep up with you right now.
So it’s time to stop texting him for real this time.
Because you and I both know making a decision feels good. It feels like forward momentum. The problem is staying committed to it.
That’s exactly why I created The Aligned No Contact Method—a super fun, cheeky, step-by-step approach to making no contact actually work for you (not just gritting your teeth and forcing yourself to not text him). One of the very first steps I teach is how to make decisions from your future self’s perspective.
Think about this:
👉 How good would she feel if she committed to no contact today?
👉 How relieved would she feel if she finally stopped waiting for him to set the tone?
👉 How free would she feel not waiting on his texts?
She’d be STOKED.
And the truth is—you can start acting the way she would act, right now. If you can do this one thing, you’ll already feel the grip on needing to text him begin to loosen.
That’s just one of the steps. Inside the guide, I give you all the pieces to make no contact stick: pep talks, clarity tools, and cheeky reminders that keep you steady when the urge to reach out hits hardest.
✨ If you need a straightforward, bingeable, step-by-step approach to finally stop texting your ex—and actually get excited about what’s next in your life—you’ll want to check out The Aligned No Contact Method.
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Hi, I’m Nancy!
A conscious breakup coach, wife, mom and I have helped a lot of people heal after their relationships end. Ready to go No Contact? Check out The Aligned No Contact Method today.